The first duty of love is to listen. [Paul Tillich]
Seems like an oxymoron, duty of love, but I don’t think so. I think if there is one thing I know makes me feel truly loved it is when someone listens. NOT what they hear. NOT what they think. NOT what they agree or disagree with. Just THAT they listen. And especially when they DO so quietly.
Listening is a magnetic and strange thing, a creative force. The friends who listen to us are the ones we move toward. When we are listened to, it creates us, makes us unfold and expand. [Karl A. Menninger]
The thing is that when I think of why I am drawn to someone or why I ease away from another person, it often comes down to how quietly I can listen to them. It might BE strange, but there it is. If I spend my listening time talking myself in off a ledge that listening to the person is forcing me out on, I would rather eat glass.
When people discuss religion, it is a pity that they often become excited and argue. We should merely listen, as one does on a dark night; we should merely gaze at the stars. [Haniel Long]
Replace religion with anything… Listening quietly precludes all argument.
I love you, Currie