When it's new and important, you have to rest in between times. And anyway, even when I like a person there is a weariness that comes. I can be with someone and everything is fine and then all of a sudden it can wash over me like a sickness, that I need the quiet of my own self. I need to unload my head and look at what I've got in there so far. See it. Think what it means. I always need to come back to being alone for a while. [Elizabeth Berg, Joy School]
I’ve always been like this but it’s only the past few years that I’ve been aware of how essential it is for me to BE alone, for awhile, and often for a long while.
Alone is where I DO my best marinating. I can toss and turn and try ideas out. I can make a list of what might happen and how I might handle it.
The relationships I have Today that are working work BEcause of my insistence on Time Alone. Solitude. Quiet. NO incoming anything.
This is also why past relationships, and even some long-term ones that continue Today have been so troubled and troubling. I simply did NOT recognise my need for Time to BE just by myself. Quietly.
I love you, Currie