I used to think that paired opposites were a given, that love was the opposite of hate, right the opposite of wrong. But now I think we sometimes buy into these concepts because it is so much easier to embrace absolutes than to suffer reality. I don't think anything is the opposite of love. Reality is unforgivingly complex. [Anne Lamott, Bird by Bird: Some Instructions on Writing and Life]
I’ve done a lot of this “I used to think” thinking and writing. It’s NOT always obvious, especially to me, but there sure have been a lot of “thinks” I’ve reconsidered in the NOT so BEautimous light of reality.
…awareness is learning to keep yourself company. And then learn to be more compassionate company, as if you were somebody you are fond of and wish to encourage. I doubt that you would read a close friend's early efforts and, in his or her presence, roll your eyes and snicker. I doubt that you would pantomime sticking your finger down your throat. I think you might say something along the lines of, 'Good for you. We can work out some of the problems later, but for now, full steam ahead! [Anne Lamott, Bird by Bird: Some Instructions on Writing and Life]
We all need encouragement. Every one of us.
I love you, Currie